Folake Bee
Hello, and welcome. My name is philanthropy and this is the healing centre, a series of podcasts for the free spirits. So premiers, heart centred entrepreneurs, and changemakers leading the New Age world, we are unlearning and releasing echoes of what's no longer serves us as we expand into new possibilities. On this week's episode, we're taking a short interlude from the normal structure to venture into the mentoring corner here and mentor on one of my favourite practices, something that has and continues to help me find balance, something that I know, I will forever need to work on myself. And that is the art of detachment with discernment, I should add, and how this practice can help us create the most beautiful business and life without the usual overwhelm, and also how we do it. But before that, let's dive into this week's moments of reflection. I was reflecting on this image of resistance that occasionally shows up for us when we're trying to do certain things or when we are going through certain phases of our lives. And it came about because I was I was currently going through a process with my, with my, my financial advisor. And we we've done all the paperwork for this process. But within me there was there was something that did not feel aligned. Logically, it made sense. While I was doing what I was signing up for logically, it makes sense financially made sense. In every physical way it made sense. But in my body is still did not land well. So there was a resistance. Coming from me, because it makes sense logically financially. It seems like the adults thing to do, I still went ahead and did the paperwork, submitted it. And then what happened was that I mean, this has been ongoing for months. Every single time we hit a block, every single time we hit a block for something that should be so easy to do, every single time there was like something coming up, they came to you know, it came to a situation where we literally just came to a standstill. And I was reflecting on that today as to why that is the case. And these downloads were just like flowing through me this idea that resistance and feeling into them is such a powerful, powerful thing to do. Normally when I'm mentoring women are usually, you know, we we go along the lines of, you know, always wanting to feel entire resistance like to know what they are feeling to them. And when we know what they are we feeling to them, we can then unblock them to be able to move forward with ease. So that's usually been, you know, my approach like you know, this, this thing we always need to try and like feel into whatever resistance we're holding. It could be, you know, when we're doing a launch in our business, when we're going through an up levelling when we're trying to make a big decision in life. Anything that takes us out of our comfort zone. Most times there might be some form of resistance within us because we are going out of that comfort zone, so we need to be able to fit into them to clear them so we can ease forward. That's usually been how we work. But today
Folake Bee
the feelings and the download I was guessing about it is actually how important sometimes this resistance that we feel are important they are. Perhaps maybe it's not always the case that they just need to be felt into and cleared, perhaps maybe sometimes the serve a purpose. Or apps, maybe sometimes they come in from a place within us. That tells us that, you know, that's actually not, it's not the right time for that yet. Or maybe that doesn't really feel fully feel aligned with what's your soul ones. So maybe that resistance is coming from the soul aspect of us. That distinction, the separation between what the soul wants, and what the mind is telling us to do. Essentially, I was making the decision from a scarcity mindset, the decision I was making was coming from us coming from a scarcity mindset, as opposed to making a decision from this spiritual soul. So for stage two, which is the opposite to just, you know, like a decision from an abundance place. But in this, in this case, the logical sense, all made perfect sense. Because it was feed in this scarcity, mindset, everything was just too convoluted, in that energy in that low vibration, which, again, is a totally different end spectrum, to the high vibration of a spiritual state. And for me, in this case, this was like this is a claim was what I was filling into what my soul really wanted, was very, very different to what I was signing up for, what I was signing up for makes sense, logically made sense, financially made sense, in every physical way. But where I'm at, at spiritually, and what my soul was calling for, is something totally, totally opposite, which doesn't make logical sense. So of course, I had this resistance within me even though I was going ahead with it, my soul was resisting it. And because if there is any, if we hold any resistance within us, even if it's very tape, even if we don't, in most times, sometimes we don't even, we don't really acknowledge them, or really even know that they're there. Things don't move forward with ease. So of course, nothing was moving. For something that should be so simple. We're just hitting blocks, and all those blocks were being manifested myself in a very, very deep, subconscious way.
Folake Bee
So isn't that interesting? And my take from it is, of course, we should always feel into any resistance we have into anything that we're trying to do.
Folake Bee
What is just as important to actually feel into why that resistance within us as there is it's one that's come in, because there really is a separation from the, what the soul wants. So what we're doing what we feel we should be doing logically. And if that's the case, we need to go back to the drawing board. Because the soul always knows and it's in my normal ecological sense. That's where fulfilment comes from. Anything else is coming from that logical, logical mind, I feel I should do it usually tends to just lead us into overwhelm. While the opposite from the hub is spiritual. Yes, it might not seem logical, yes in my sin like crazy stuff. But that's usually what brings us real full fulfilment Welcome back, I hope to this moment of reflection gave you something to inspire action, or even, maybe, just to reflect on. Now, let's move on to this week's episode, which is an interlude as we bring you along into one of our mentoring corner.
SoulPrenuer Client
Yeah, I hear what you say when people say detachment, but I can't seem to grasp, grasp fully how to do it. Yeah, because I think I spent all my life severely, you know, clinging on for dear life. And I'm not letting go. And I'm just being used and yeah, so not attached to an outcome.
Folake Bee
So the art of detachment is Yeah, being detached from an outcome for anything. And this is like, this should be a way of life for us, where it sort of brings us back into, into like the moment into more of the experience into more of like, what is there for us right here and right now. So are given an example. You could have all dislike, big dreams, or big goals or desire. So wherever it is, sometimes we forget that when we desire something, so you desire like in your business, you want to have this beautiful parent, as clients that you are, you know, you're working with their children, and in your head is like, Okay, I want to create this business. And in this business, I want to have this type of clients. And also, I want to be making this amount of money. And whatever it is that you have for your business. Sometimes we forget that actually, the real facts is that it's not really the physical clients that we want, or the actual money. It's what that process in that relationship gives to us, which is the feelings. Yeah, yeah. So in that process of you, creating a business, what you really desire, and you've said, set it to me time and time again, is to be is to is to is to bring your impact to the world is to help people Yeah, is to start to help people. And also, even more important, importantly, to help people with something that you've gone through. So, you know, you want to help people you want to feel of value, you want to feel that you're contributing. Yeah. And also along those lines, you want to be able to feel like you're secure enough to be able to do this work, you know, financially, so you're not like worrying, you're not stepping into anxiety for money. So you want to feel secure. Yeah, as a mother that you can provide, you know, for your son, those are the things that really we are looking for, but on this physical on this physical journey as human beings, we, because we're humans, we tend to see the the actual physical attributes as the things that we desire. But, you know, those desires, those things are really just a tool. I don't know, it's
Folake Bee
nice to see what they're like a symbol really of the Exactly, exactly the feeling that we're looking for. It's not under the physical like, you know, like, you feel abundant and money you know, the money money shows up but the money is just it from the inside. Yeah, I see where you're coming from.
Folake Bee
So if you started then think about it like this, then this art of detachment brings you back into what is really real which is to detach from With the actual goal or targets that you perceive in your head, and to stay present in natural, the feelings in the gratitude in the experience of things. So, even when something bad happens, or something very challenging happens, which, you know, life is like this. And like, you know, that difficult week where you're just like, ah, like, one day So, and this person showed up, this person showed up the mirrored Yeah, this guy showed up, that mirrored a desire of yours. Yeah, yeah. Because we are literally, life is about a mirror. Everything you see, is you mirroring something back to you. And because you've gone through, like a very intense energy healing sessions, yeah. Yeah. Sometimes then everything can be postponed it like, you know, the way you manifest stuff will be very, very powerful. So in that process, like you happened so fast, you mirrored back to yourself. Yeah, that you know, you desire in the man and how he should treat you, you sights reflects back to you. And then if we were to bring back the sense of detachment, the art of detachment for me personally, I see it as it helps us to really stay in the moment. And so by, you know, becoming attached to the outcome that, okay,
Folake Bee
your mind thinks
Folake Bee
you would more say, that present moment, you enjoy that experience for what it is, yeah. And then what the helps you do is, as you stay in that present moment, and enjoying the experience for what it is, you are then better able to hold it for longer. But what I find with so many women is we can last because we're so attached to the outcome, and attached to like, the high feelings and other stuff, that we then lose the energy and I call it a leaky container, we lose the energy, and then the thing disappears, you're not able to hold that vision for longer, but the more you're able to hold the vision for longer stay in the experience enjoy the experience for is, the more that energy expands, the more you stay in it, the more it expands, the more it crystallise in you, the more it becomes more permanent.
SoulPrenuer Client
So say if so in a situation like so. Because what I've done there what I've done say with with that guy, I've not valued the moment and start thinking about the possible outcome. And then the you know, the illusion disappears. And then the left thinking oh, well what was that about? You know? Because I've been thinking about the future so how do and then you start thinking about the past because then the the the moments already happened to been and gone so then you then you basically start reminiscing do you then you don't want to be doing that neither. Yeah, so once it's once the once the once the Good Feet like met this guy. The moments passed. And now I don't want to be thinking about the future and I also don't want to reminisce about what happens so what do I do you
Folake Bee
stay in the present moment that moment is really all we've got gone the past is not even relevant anymore the past is gone. The part isn't existed
SoulPrenuer Client
I just this is a no it's because the PERT the guy like you said it's a mirror it's not an illusionary and if so I need to keep thinking about not thinking feeling feeling about what it is that I want and desire and then it should show up so yeah, I know. Yeah, well I've been I've been like you've just said I've been concentrated in the outcome in the future rather than Yeah.
Folake Bee
So So it's about us always need to take it takes practice of us being in that present moment of what is right here right now. And really enjoying that for what it is. And that present moment always shows us what the next step is. So if you are like if you're in that present moment, and this is all about the feminine and the masculine energy again, and we're going to talk more and more about this but just to bring that in, in the situation. If you if you sit in the presence moments, if you stayed in your feminine, what it will look like is that so you enjoy the you know the night for what it is and you've been in your feminine and it will look like you're leaning back. Yeah. So you're letting him lead. So you're like, Oh, that was really lovely, you know, whatever, then you lean back. And then it's up to him to sort of like, lead the way. Because you have no, you have no attachment to, to an outcome for this. You union, and also in your feminine as a powerful feminine woman, this really abundance. Yeah, and we're gonna go into like, tapping into abundance, you will know that there is so like, this is just the beginning. Like, there's so many more men that are gonna be showing up. And in fact, like, he was lucky to even cross paths, you know, was like, absolutely. So you'd you know, that's the energy that, you know, we want to be in to just lean back and let it be what it to be, and just enjoy that union for what it is. If it goes on this way, maybe your timeline when it's supposed to collide, then he goes, that is fine. There'll be so many more experiences that are coming. So this is what I clicked
SoulPrenuer Client
on to it because it was it's never happened before. Yeah, I mean, it's I've always done I've always done the chest and even even though I know I shouldn't do it, and even though it even though I tried my hardest not to not to achieve this I was always chasing. So the fact that and then Angel Chase, will it not? Not to him physically, but mentally in my head? I was thinking, Oh, no, because it was it was new. But you've I feel I feel more clarity. Now we've just, you've just said that
Folake Bee
feel. And also we're going to bring that into business as well. You know, like in business, for example, the thing that comes up, you know, time and time again, when I'm speaking to women is this fair of like, of doing something like maybe putting something out there, like, you know, a new programme, a masterclass, or anything in that fear that you're not going to get the numbers, or like that we put a post out, we fear that maybe nobody's going to like, engage with us, nobody's gonna like it, we're not gonna get the numbers. So this art of detachment also is going to help you along this path of like, what really matters? Is you doing your thing? Is you being in that energy? Yeah,
SoulPrenuer Client
some of the matches that this one, I found a song that matches what you just said, it's not a Beyonce song. It was came on in the car. Yes, kid when I was walking the dog. Wait yesterday. It's called I Am I was here.
Folake Bee
Ah, have you heard it? Horribly, but sometimes you don't, oh, my God, I was just like, Oh, my God, this is my song.
SoulPrenuer Client
She's basically saying that she's like, you know, I want to do something. And it's like, so people know that I was here. And that's, that's all. That's all that matters. And I was like, Yeah, I just want to get something out there when people didn't know I was here.
Folake Bee
Exactly. So if you know that, then you will start to even know wait for anything to start to, like, put anything out there. And I'll encourage you even now with a social media to start to like talk about what you do. Because all that matters is you been in that energy. And you actually expressing yourself. It doesn't matter how many likes or how many people respond, really all that matters is you been in the energy of, of that thing. And then what I know for sure from that is that, you know, that energy, it ripples out in ways that you cannot see, you know, I've had master classes where like, you know, you've been in one master class, it was just four of you. And look, now, we are working for a very long period. So it doesn't really matter about the numbers, it doesn't matter. Like who you think is watching or not, we're watching what matters is you stand in your own energy doing your feet detached from, you know, a certain outcome. Yes. So this art of detachment is something that is going to come up again and again and again and again. And there's some really beautiful practice of, of stepping more into this feminine way of being where you are, you're powerful in your own brain. You know, you're abundant, you know who you are, you know what you're here for, and that is all that matters.
Folake Bee
And that sets for another episode of the healing centre. hope that you enjoy this episode and that you will come back again to listen to more expensive talks. Next episode we are back to normal shenanigans and as already promised, is going to be all about healing through the twin flame energy. A topic I personally cannot wait to dive into. In the meanwhile, are we connected on Facebook or Instagram? No. Will give us a follow doesn't for like a bee. I will very much love also if you can rate and review this episode, because it really helps us to be seen. And if you have any questions or feedback please do get in touch as I love hearing from you. If you're a soul premiere like myself in our dream business with hearts from the soul base, do join the soul printer collective private group on Facebook. Don't forget to keep spreading the love and never stop the healing. Take care and join me again soon for another episode of the healing centre podcast.
Folake Bee
Bye.
