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Hello and welcome. My name is Folake Bee and this is the inner power game, a series of podcasts for the free spirits for the soul premieres, the heart centred entrepreneurs and the changemakers, who are late in the New Age world, we are unlearning. And we are releasing echoes of what no longer serves us as we expand into new possibilities. And in today's episode, we are following the news of Jacinda Arden, who recently quit as New Zealand Prime Minister. Basically, she said she no longer has enough in the tank to do the road justice, and that she doesn't have enough energy for it anymore. And this has prompted me to talk about the concept of self care, and self love as an inner power game tool before burnout. So in this episode, I'm going to talk about how these two practices of self care and self love how these two are so crucial for 2023. And how it has become a power tool, which can basically really help us avoid burnout, or purse avoid overwhelm. And also to do this before, it's too late. And I really hope to give you a really practical ways of implementing this into your daily lives as we go into this new year. So I hope you enjoy this. And if you have any questions as usual, let us know. So let's dive straight in.
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So I was recently reading an article online, which stated that the burnout is one of the number one reason many high achieving women who are normally driven and ambitious, and otherwise love their job will end up living that same job. And even as I record this podcast today, Jacinda, Arden Prime Minister of New Zealand, and only just resigned as PM, say she no longer has enough in her tank to do justice, and concluding that she does not have the energy to continue in that role. So what better time to talk about self care and self love, knowing when to fill up our tank before it's too late. And when to quit, like Jacinda here,
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let's go into self care and self love, like worse actually, self care and self love, because I feel there are two differences. So the way I see it is that self care refers to the actions and the practice that, you know we engage in to maintain our physical, mental, and emotional health. And sometimes this can include things like how what we eat, getting regular exercise, managing stress, and even to things like making sure that we have enough sleep and getting help when we need it. That is self care. Self love, on the other hand refers to, you know, our appreciation and acceptance of who we are as a person in all our, our good and bad, including our strengths and our weaknesses. It involves treating ourselves with kindness, compassion, and understanding. And it's really about valuing ourselves, you know, in ways that we set boundaries that are healthy, with how people treat us and how we treat ourselves. So self care and self love, you know, they're related. Self Care provides the foundation for self love to grow self care practices, and probably help us develop a very, like a very positive and strong self image and help us feel worthy and deserving of happiness, success, you know that all those usual things that we always dream of. And self love, in turn, allows us to set the boundaries to make the choices that are best in our own best interest and prioritise our own well being. So, you know, with Jacinda resigning as PM, I see that
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Add as a very, very big act of self love. Because I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision for her for her to step down. Or like she said, he already recognises that she, you know, she just doesn't have enough energy to give any more, which to me indicates that brink of burnout. So self love is when we can really listen to our body and know when to stop or when to quit both self love and and self care ongoing process that requires consistent effort. But when practice regularly, it can lead to improve physical and mental health and greater self awareness and improve relationships. The problem comes is a problem comes from the fact that many of us neglect these two aspects, in a way almost don't see it as something to prioritise. And for so many people.
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Which is on the value the importance of like, self care and self love, to the extent that we actually don't do this things. And for me, personally, I feel this to concept is so key to creating strong boundaries. And it's so key to also helping others know how to treat us in a way that is favourable. In fact, I remember once working with a client was having relationship issues with her a partner then. And, you know, to make the story short, her biggest thing was that the partner was not treating her the way she wanted to be treated, and she was not really happy in a relationship. And she was considering walking out of the relationship, she was not happy, she felt that the partner was not really, you know, pulling his weight and making her feel valued. So in our session, I remember asking her that, okay, so what makes you happy, you know, you said, your partner's not treating you the way you want to be treated, not making you happy. But what is it that makes you happy?
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What makes you happy? And she went into like to silent for a very long time, because she couldn't actually answer that question what makes her happy, because over the years, she has solved as forgotten, what makes her happy, she has solved as talks, you know,
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the very hidden this acts in this practice around value now solve for this act around self care. And self love, is like literally just take away. And she doesn't know what makes her happy. And my question to her then was, if you don't know what makes you happy, how do you expect your husband to make you happy? How do you expect for him to know what makes you happy? And I feel for me, this is so key to the topic here around self care, and self love, the act of self care and self love can be a very powerful tool in several ways. And, you know, we already mentioned about that overall wellbeing, you know, taking care of our physical, mental and emotional states, which leads to an improved physical health, you know, helps us reduce stress and also the state of happiness that many of us are always seeking.
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And when we start to practice self love and self care, it also improves our self esteem and self worth, like in the case of my clients here, will felt her partner was making a happy if she started, you know, she, in fact, all of us we almost need to take we need to take responsibility for our own happiness. And this comes from this act of self love and self care. Because when we start to do that it improves our own self esteem and our own self worth, because we're prioritising the self care and self love and self love act. And it's tends to help us develop a positive self image and start to feel more worthy and deserving of happiness and success. And consequently, we start to attract that you know, that you know, the same like attracts like or this magnetism way of creating life would become and then we are trapped will be They come. And also, it's
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this idea around stress, which is a really big thing right now, especially if you're working in our nine to five 24/7. Stress is a really big thing right now. And anybody has spoken to me this year, you will, you would have heard me say, managing stress should be a priority for 2023. managing your stress level should be high priority. So regular self care practice can actually help us manage stress and develop coping mechanism mechanisms for dealing with difficult situations when they do show up. And also, when we do the self care and the self love practices that we're talking about here, it actually also helps us improve our relationship. Like in the case of my, my clients, this is actually one of the take away that she took, you know, she she left with, and one of the homework that she had to work on, for the next few months, that actually became a game changer. Because when we prioritise our own well being and self love, we're then better able to form healthy and fulfilling relationships with other people. And I find that usually, many people always work backwards from this, they feel like they need the relationship to find the happiness or the need the relationship to to become fulfilled, when really fulfilment actually starts from within us. So this simple act of self care and self love is something that's going to help us actually initiate this fulfilment that most of us are second, so powerful. The other thing I wanted to mention is about this idea around empowerment, because by valuing in taking care of ourselves, we can break free from certain expectations and pressure that we may feel from either the society from our family from our friends, because we have this, we have this sense of empowerment, and this sense of inner power, that this to practice evokes. And this is really a very, very powerful one, when we can break free from other people's expectations. And a lot of people are already searching for, like, you know, how to, how to break free from others people's expectations of them, and not knowing how to, I say start with practice of self love, and self care. And then the other big one that I see when my clients start to, when we're going to recall the tap paths and self love and self care pathway, you're constantly, you know, practice this, you know, for a period of time you start, they start to have this resilience within them. Because self care and self love practices can help you develop greater resilience, both physically and mentally, which can be very beneficial when we're dealing with, you know, big life challenges and difficulties or issues that usually, you know, arises. And then when we develop this, this strong resilience, what you can then start to find it and start to build momentum, where you are able to then start to achieve your bigger goals. Because when we take care of ourselves, and we start to love ourselves, we are more likely to be able to achieve our goals and aspirations in life. And it just becomes more and more beautiful. We start to find more balance in life because, again, self care and self love practices can help us find this balance between our personal and professional life leading us to this satisfaction and fulfilment with how we are living our life. So already you can see self love, self care. This sounds so simple. This sounds like something that we can almost take for granted. But it's key to maintaining or activating this kind of inner power that changes everything in our life. lives, if you're gonna do anything, you know, if you're going to start, you know, stretch your muscles, your inner power muscles in 2023, I would say start with this to act of self love, and self practice. But the fact is, so many people, I know so many women that are missing out, and I can see a reason why they're missing out on this or why, you know, people don't prioritise it. In fact, I have a few reasons why this is, I think the first one is this, this expectation from society, especially, you know, I'm going to talk about women here, because I work you know, very much more with men, women, few men are very much more with women. And women are often expected to prioritise the lives of others over the over their own. And they tend to start to feel guilty for taking time for themselves. And this is one of the big reasons why I see many knots using this beautiful practice that can actually change most of the problems. The other thing that I see why people don't do this is the lack of time. And again, with women, you know, let's go back to women, that often juggling so many things at the same time juggling multiple priorities, such as work family, household tasks, and I'm not saying the same doesn't apply to men. The same applies to most men. But women in particularly, are known for always multitasking. So there's always like some juggling going on. And as a result, they feel they do not have time to prioritise self care. The other thing some people will say as to why when I speak to them about, you know, giving them a tap pass, like a month, homework to prioritise self care and self love. One of the first thing that some people might say, is this thing around money, financial, but no financial issues, like they feel that self care can be expensive. And many women may not even have that financial resources to invest in some of the self care activities that they feel will count. But really, I think we can start very, very small, even just some bath, you know, self care, time in the bath, a longer time in the shower, a walk, you know, just away from the family. So there are so many things that we can do that actually do not cost money. But automatically, people start to think that self care can be expensive. The other thing that I also see why people do actually don't do self care, or I owe this act of self love is this lack of representation and role models that are promoting it? Men, women may not see the representation of self self care and self love in the media and society. And then they don't have role models who put prioritise self kin and self love in their lives. And I was doing a research just to see what was out there. And you know, there were a few people I saw, like Gwyneth Paltrow, his or her name, opera, and a few more, you know, coming out and talking about self care. And I thought, it's amazing. We need more women talking about their self care, and their self love practice and how they prioritise it because the more we make it as a theme, the more we make it as a priority, the more we'll make it as a normality, the more it encourages other women to also start to take it as important and this is one of the reasons why I'm actually doing this episode of podcast. And this also links back to that this lack of education, many women, you know, again, may not have the knowledge or education on how to practice self care or self love and health away. They just don't know, you know, where to start or in a war things.
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Were things that can then implement or incorporate into their lives in ways that they can do it. That doesn't take much time. If we just start now, you know, we're so used to the, to the Russian and the chasing and, and just like getting into the struggle and the chaos and the survival, that we no longer know how to love ourselves. was hard to take care of ourselves. And, you know, this is such a shame. So, I want to give you three powerful points going forward, okay, that I feel, if you're listening to this and you're like, yes, you know, for like, Yeah, I hear you. And this is one area that really, I should really prioritise. And perhaps maybe you're like, okay, but I do I do that in a way that is consistent in a way that I keep up with it, I'm gonna give you three powerful points, first of all, as to why it's so important and crucial for 2023, for you to do that. And secondly, how you can also do it in a way that you stay consistent. And, you know, whether you prioritise it. So let's go into this, like, you know why it's actually important. And some of this is I've mentioned, I think is worth repeating them, just so you know, it stays, remember them. So self care and self love, are reset promotes overall well being, taking care of ourselves mentally, physically, emotionally, leads to a better physical health, helps us reduce stress, and helps us tap into this happiness, self care, self love. Horses actually maintain better relationships, like I said, because, you know, when we prioritise ourselves, we're better able to know how to engage how to communicate our needs, and also not just how to fulfil ourselves, but be fulfilled in a relationship. And thirdly, self care, self love, can empower us as both men and women, because by valuing and taking care of ourselves, we break free from expectations and from pressure, we're able to stand in our own power, and almost like, come from our own states of strong boundaries. So, you know, like I said, more and more women, I saw when I did the quick research just to see like, you know, whether anybody was talking about that, the people that jumped at me for talking about self care and self love routines, where celebrities like Gwyneth Paltrow, and Gwyneth Actually, she's very open about her personal journey to prioritising self care and self love. And she's been very vocal about the importance of like, taking time for herself. She practice things like self care routine, such as meditation, yoga, journaling, and these are all the things that we can do. That doesn't cost money. She also mentioned about the importance of listening to her body setting boundaries, making time, you know, for herself, and she has like, I think she has a lifestyle brand called coop. I've not tried, you know, I don't know much about it. But I saw when I was doing my research, and she's actively promoting self care, wellness and self love. There's a celebrated that I saw. And a field is well known for this area of things. It's also Jennifer Aniston. And she spoke about the importance of self care and self love in a life and career. And she has also been vocal about her commitment to taking care of your physical and mental health. She also practices yoga and meditation. And I think she's very much into her Hill, healthy eating habits. And lastly, there were also other women like Emma Watson, Lady Gaga, and MA Roberts. And there was somebody else will skip my mind. Now, for all this women are speaking out loud now about the importance of self care and self love and self acceptance in their lives, and also sharing the personal journey, you know, in that area. So it's so beautiful and beautiful to see. And I feel like more of us should be talking about, you know, how we're prioritising this and some of the things that we're doing just to encourage other people around us where they sell work, where they send our business, whether it's at home, just to encourage more people to to incorporate this into their life because we're living in a society right now with stress and burnout and overwhelm, is just off the chat. And like, you know, I started this podcast about a pm for New Zealand 10 How she's You know, quitting, because she says, You know, I don't have the energy anymore. You know, actually, she doesn't have the energy anymore. And we don't want it to get to that stage where we're at a burnout before we listen to our body. So, let's talk about and talk about, I want this podcast to be so practical for you that you leave and you go, Okay, I really feel it, I feel this importance and going forward, like, I know what I need to do, even if there's just one action. I know, one thing that I can incorporate just to improve this area of life. So here are some things Yeah, to incorporate self care and show routine, you can set aside and dedicate time for self care each day. Yeah, this can be as little as 10 to 15 minutes a day. But it's important to make sure that this time is dedicated to activities that promote well being, you know, such as things like meditation, yoga, or reading a book, I have the Shakti mats, if you haven't heard about the Shakti mat, you know, I highly recommend it. Most of my clients, they will get a Shakti mat from me. And the reason why I love a Shakti maths is because it really does help with meditation, or also just releasing and releasing the muscles in our body and releasing stress. If you haven't heard about a Shakhty, Matt, definitely look it up. Maybe I'll even put a link underneath this podcast for you to check out. And I'm just saying, I am not, I don't get anything for promoting this product is just a product that I've used, and I absolutely love. So apart from setting aside 15 minutes of your day, which 15 minutes is nothing, it goes like this, you know, there's nothing it's about making self care a priority. And this means being mindful of your own needs, you know, and making self care a priority over other activities and responsibilities. Its means saying no to things that don't serve you. And making time for things that too. This means coming first. And yes, I know, for so many people, this is actually a big thing is coming fast. But if we're gonna do this, right, we need to make self care a priority. You know, we need to create a self care routine. And this can include things like, again, a warm bath, so in that 15 minutes, in our critical routine, it can be a warm bath, Jonalyn going for a walk, anything simple like that, create a routine that you know you can stick to, this is so key to making sure this becomes a regular practice, and that you incorporate it into your daily and weekly routine. Practice. It's like self compassion, you know, like how to be kind to yourself, how to, you know how to use it, to practice self forgiveness. And also using it as a way to start to learn to be easy on yourself, because majority of the time we are on, we are on most is the hardest critic or, like we just so hard on ourselves and self care, I feel initiates this process of being kind kinder to ourselves. And if you need it, you can serve it you can go for professional help if needed. If you find that you're struggling with self care, and
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and you know you really need it, you know, ask for professional help if you can, because they can help you with and give you guidance on like self care routine and addressing any issues underlining issues that may be impacting your own ability to bring in that self love to bring in that self care, that compassion because sometimes when it comes down, comes down to it. There are big underlying issues like even down to inner child wounds and this is some of the things that I work with my clients on in talking about that in the inner pod game sanctuary if you haven't heard about that, we actually hope I help you prioritise both of these concepts into your life in a way that it doesn't feel like a chore, or where you have to figure out what you need to do. And we'll make this process sacred so that it has a bigger meaning and has a bigger manifestation power. And if you don't know about the inner power game, the IPG sanctuary, it's actually a sacred space designed to nurture and empower the feminine energy in the magic within you. It's a place where women come together to connect, to heal, to grow, where you would find your community of like minded women who understand the power and magic of the feminine. You know, it's a way that we can find something out of the chaos, you know, the chaos of life, it's like, it's like a beautiful container for women. And we have a full year schedule of challenges, life meditation sessions to esoteric content that will help you tap into your winning inner wisdom. You know, that inner feminine wisdom will help you unleash your creativity help you awaken your intuition. And you know, the iPad, iPad, the IPG sanctuaries, just a place of refuge, where you can let go of stress and exploitation of the outside world, and reconnect with your true self. In this space will provide a safe and supportive community, a safe and supportive environment where you can explore your passions, discover your own purpose, and live you know your life in an in an authentic way. Because you tap into this inner power to be who you really are, and be able to stand in your own light. So what are you looking, you're looking to find your voice, whether you're looking to heal from past trauma, because sometimes this past trauma, I find is one of the main reasons as well, why so many people neglect, self care, self love, or why so many people, even after they know about it, they are unable to implement it into their life. You know, or maybe even if you're just looking for a place to simply connect with your soul tribe, with other women. This is the place the sanctuary is here to help you reclaim your power, and reignite the magic of the feminine within you. So if this sounds like amazing, and this sounds like something that you know, you feel that maybe you're searching for you should join us and just come and experience the transmit transformative power of the feminine energy and the magic that it can bring into your life. You can find me on for like a be on any of the social media platforms like Instagram or Facebook, and ask me any questions about the sanctuary. Or if you just want to sign up, you know, you can do that. Just send me a message and with the word sanctuary, and we can start the journey together. Every two weeks, we have every two weeks, we have a meditation sessions. And we also have a private place a private group online, sacred group where everything happens. So it's like it's private, it's confidential. It's closed to the public, so nobody can see what's happening in there. And you can really feel safe, we have meditation rooms, and we have challenges. And to me, it's just a magical thing for me to be able to provide this. So if anyone wants more information about the sanctuary, just drop me a message on any of the social media platforms using for lack up. So that's it about self care, and self love, or should I say about you know, how to play the power game with self care self love. And I hope you've really enjoyed this episode. And I hope that you take something from today's episode and run with it. All true, lots 2023. And if you have any questions, I love to always hear them. Just drop me a message. And that's all for this week's episode. So what do you think about this week's episode? And is there a topic you'd like us to cover? You know, you can drop any suggestions to me personally on any of the social media platforms, Instagram Facebook, Twitter,